Post(s) tagged with "life"
welcomes relationships, adventures, life.
Plants trees, flowers, a garden.
Exposes your soul to the freshness of the world.
from the experiences brought to you.
Tasting love and joy.
ends a page, chapter, or the entire story.
Sad at times
many a times,
but not all times.
The leaves that bloomed
from the tree we planted
have now all blown away.
With the change in the wind,
we never got the chance to say goodbye.
After the rain falls,
will the leaves flourish once again?
Has the story ended or just a chapter?
Nothing at all,
The action that speaks louder than words.
Today will you say,
“hello, goodbye, or nothing at all?”
I’ve written a blog on thoughts before ( http://shethjuice.tumblr.com/post/3602431495) , but sometimes we all need to remind ourselves about what we need to do with the thoughts our mind come up with.
We either know something is certain or we’re making things up. When I say “making things” up I mean:
- we’re thinking about what someone will think, say, or do because of something we are about to do or have already done
- we think about how the action we are performing will reflect on us. Will we do it right or wrong? What will people say if we do it wrong, wait…what will people say if I do it right?
- like the above- we are afraid of failing at something (without even trying it yet and if we have failed at it before…what if we do again?)
- what will people think if I wear this? Or if I don’t wear this?
- Thoughts of unworthiness
- Judgement of people, places, and things.
Most of the stuff we make up involves what others will think about us. But, um, HELLO! We can only control what we think about ourselves. Whatever you think about yourself or what you’re doing will be projected onto others. If you think you’re going to do great, you will! If you think you’re going to be happy, you’re HAPPY! We also tend to make up thoughts about the outcome of an act we are going to do or are in the process of doing. We cannot predict the future. All we can do is focus on the now.
These made up thoughts are formed by our ego, the false self. I wrote a blog on this as well: http://shethjuice.tumblr.com/post/3477547900/the-false-self. We need to be aware of our thoughts and decide which ones are benefiting us and which ones aren’t.
Our mind/ego is constantly stirring things up and you have the control to choose what you want to keep in your mind and what you don’t; you are the only one who has the power to control your thoughts. No one else has this control unless you choose to give them that power. As long as we are aware of our thoughts we are capable of controlling them. We can laugh off whatever craziness our mind comes up with and forget about it and keep the thoughts that benefit us. Here’s an example of what I mean by the craziness the mind formulates:
- Checking out at the grocery store and having a cashier who is rude or has a bad attitude. I get pissed and curse them out in my head, but then I realize “Dude, what if they’ve had a bad day.”
- When someone can’t say my name (even my American name) properly I used to get so angry because I thought I had simplified it enough. I’d wonder, ”How freaking illiterate are you?!” But then I realized I can’t understand people sometimes, so, in turn, I should be more understanding.
We never know what someone is going through fully. Our mind/ego thinks up these thoughts that are sometimes really mean and horrible, but, remember to chill out. We’re all going through stuff, maybe great or maybe horrible, so just laugh off your crazy thoughts and go on your merry little way. Don’t let these crazy thoughts piss you off or get you down. Keep the good shit and dump out that bad shit! Also, be aware of the fact that everyone makes up thoughts. They might not be aware of it like you so have compassion towards them.
If any of the made up thoughts becomes a fact that isn’t benefiting you, then just brush your shoulders off and laugh it off. The only thoughts that matter are the ones that you decide to keep in your noggin!
I watched a video by Joyologist, Tricia Huffman, about this. It was an amazing video and reminded me to be more aware of my thoughts. Check her stuff out @ yourjoyologist.com. I always try my best to be aware of my mind’s tricks, but I sometimes forget. I really needed this reminder and hope by reminding myself I’m able to remind you as well.
I have said this numerous times; it’s the theme to my blog. It means to look at objects, issues, etc. from every perspective and not just your belief on the subject or the narrow angle you see the subject from.
If you were to look into the mirror straight on you’d see an identical portrait of yourself. However, if you’re at an angle facing the mirror you only see your side profile. You’re looking at yourself through the same object, but you see different views at every angle you turn. In the same sense, if you do that with everything you look at in life you will start seeing it in a very different way.
No one person has the same experiences or comes from the same background. Therefore, everyone has a different perspective on life based on their own experiences and perception. This isn’t their fault, nor is it yours. Understanding is the key, I think, to learning how to view things from every angle. Some may be completely ignorant to the subject being discussed or grew up with a different view on it. This is why understanding is very vital; if you can do that then you can see why someone may see things in a way you never have before. It comes in handy when having conversations or even arguments. It is frustrating at times when you see things from others’ perspective, but they are unable to see it from yours. In time, though, if you’re persistent and keep your mind open hopefully others will learn to as well.
Each culture has it’s own set of traditions and values. When living in a world that is a melting pot of cultures, though, it’s vital to blend these views together or to even change some of these into new ones. We live in an ever-changing world and so our thought process has to coincide with it.
The elders in my family are very traditional and believe things are meant to be done certain ways. When I try to expose them to new ideas it usually gets thrown to the side and disregarded. I know they think they can’t help it because that’s all they’ve ever known to do. Once they’ve been exposed to different ideas (more regularly) it’ll erase any misconceptions and allow them to have a broader view and a more open mind.
Three years ago I went to FL for Thanksgiving for a mini family reunion. My cousin, who was in his late 20’s at the time, brought his gf. I remember him telling me that he did that to make it easier for the younger ones in the family. That was the first time anyone had ever brought their bf/gf to a family gathering. My brother has a girlfriend who everyone is the family knows about. About 5-10 years ago this wouldn’t have been acceptable to my family. Now she comes on family vacations and over to the house all the time. Whenever my family goes to a wedding and she comes with us, all the elders automatically think that she is my brother’s fiancée. The concept of openly dating is still quite new to the Indian community. It’s starting to be more accepted because people are openly doing it.
The more open you are the more open people around you will become. People don’t like change or the unfamiliar. It scares the shit out of them. It scares the shit out of me. But change isn’t a bad thing; it’s just different from what you’re used to. It’s okay to change your views or broaden your knowledge. In fact it is more than okay. Not everything is right or wrong, black or white, yes or no. Keep an open mind, about life, and it can be the best thing to ever happen.
A closed box serves no purpose so make sure to keep yours open.
Throughout life we encounter many people, each who somehow affect us. We have and build relationships with these people. These relationships come in different shapes and sizes whether it be a blood relationship, friendship, romantic relationship, student-teacher, etc.
Each of these relationships and encounters teach us something about ourselves or teach us a lesson on trust, love, pain, happiness, patience, etc. We may not know the lesson until it has passed, but each person in our life has entered it for a reason and will definitely teach us something.
I recently realized to look at what lesson I learned or am learning from a person. Before I would just look at whether the person brought me pain or pleasure, to say the least. I would always hear people complain about how someone broke their heart, trust, or were just a shitty friend (and I would do this too). But what I wouldn’t hear or talk about is how we’ve learned from that lesson. Because we wouldn’t acknowledge that a lesson was deep down in there, something similar would happen again with another person until the lesson is acknowledged and taught. I’m not saying that if we acknowledge the lesson, it will not happen again. What I am saying though is that if we acknowledge the lesson, then we will understand how to react to it in a better manner when presented to us again.
We are the ones that unconsciously or consciously attract people into our lives. If someone has hurt us, then we must forgive them and see that they were brought into our life to teach us something. Forgiving them isn’t letting them off the hook, it’s letting ourselves off the hook. By forgiving we allow ourselves the chance to be as happy as possible, freeing us from the past and letting us live in the present. By not forgiving we are giving the person we are angry at the right to control and alter our mood. Forgive, learn the lesson, and move on. Let love and happiness take over so you can have a limitless amount of each.
Also remember that not only does every individual person teach you a lesson, but you teach every one else a lesson too. Now, what lesson is it that you want to teach?
My prayers go out to those who lost their life, those who lost someone they love, and those who are injured due to the earthquake and tsunami in Japan.
They had 10-15 minutes of notice of the natural disaster coming their way. No way of really getting the chance to be able to do anything about it. Disaster was coming towards them, and they had no where to go.
Thank god the west coast had time to prepare and close off the beaches. That’s all we had to worry about; not being able to go swimming or surfing. Boo hoo.
Life can be taken from us so quickly. Don’t sweat the small stuff and don’t take things for granted. We’ve got it so good. Appreciate it and love it!
Exactly one year ago I wrote this blog post on wordpress. I thought it would be nice to share it on my tumblr.
Do you ever wake up thinking its going to be a horrible day, and that’s exactly what it becomes? Or had to give a presentation you were dreading and so stressed about, but kept telling yourself it would be ok; to your dismay it turns out to be. You can always turn negative thoughts into positive ones that can be beneficial to you. But if you keep those negative thoughts within you, that’s all you will get in return. I used to always think that I would always get in trouble, for things that didn’t even matter or weren’t trouble worthy. But because I always put my energy into those negative thoughts, thats exactly what would happen. I would either punish myself or get yelled at by another. Once I changed my outlook though, this stopped happening. I started looking at the things I did in a positive way and things started going more smoothly.
Thoughts are only words strung together that you yourself have given meaning. The thoughts purpose can change from the energy put towards it. It can turn heaven into hell or hell into heaven. Just like the presentation example above, if you kept the negative thought of doing badly that’s most likely what would happen. Your performance gets affected by your thoughts. By telling yourself ”everything is ok and I’ll do just fine” makes you more comfortable and able to handle the situation at hand.
Have you ever gone to a party and knew no one you were friends with were going to be there, so you just went into it with a bad attitude knowing you wouldn’t have a good time. My mom used to make me go to things I didn’t want to, and I’d just mope around alone and have a horrible time. Recently, I had to take my mom and aunt to a wedding function and only their friends were going to be there. I decided to go to it with a positive attitude; ended up talking about the movie 2012 with the elders and had a great time.
Many people like to make excuses for things that have gone wrong in their life or if a mistake arose. Excuses are made only to trick ourself rather than see what the problem was and see how to resolve it. Making us feel better is the underlying result of excuses. No one wants to admit they are in the wrong or imperfect, but we don’t realize that no one in the world is. Once we accept everything we’ve done for what it is, its easier to start cycling on the path you want. If you say that you hate your job, but you can’t quit because of so and so, you will never be able to find another job and be happy. However, if you say that you are sure that you will find a new fulfilling job, it will come to you much easier.
Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.” Negative things sometimes just happen and we tend to stay stuck in that mindset because we’re upset. If you get fired from your job, lose someone close to you, your computer breaks, etc. we want to blame ourself or someone else for it. We stay stuck in a rut because it’s hard not to, but then it’s harder to get out of it once we’ve been in that state for so long. I know how hard it is to stay positive when everything seems to be falling apart, but that’s the only way to keep things together. If you move your energy towards positive thoughts, the “misery” can end in a flash. “I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean
Complaining, negativity, quick to judge, stress, fear, pain, etc can dissolve from your life if you just keep your thoughts positive.
The energy you put out initiates the energy coming within. Be positive and everything you perceive will be in a joyous light, but be negative and everything will be poisonous.